Dating a man with emotional baggage

Some women hold on to the idea that the ex may come back into her life.

Or they just don't have resolution after the relationship goes sour.

As I've gotten older, though, and have been in more (and longer term) relationships, my opinions on all of this have changed quite a bit.

Dating a man with emotional baggage

When I was younger and in relationships, I always thought that emotional baggage was a bad thing, partly because society had always told me that and partly because it seemed to be the reason why I (and other people) would end relationships.

Being in my early and mid-20s, I was usually pretty invested in a relationship until the time would come for something "unfavorable" to come up.

But it also might be that I have finally reached a place in my life where I can feel thankful and grateful for all the things in my past (as challenging as it may have been at times) and allow them to be things that help me in making better choices as I move forward.

And in return, I can have that same awareness and point of view when it comes to someone I am dating.

(The Frisky) -- Let's face it -- we've all got issues and sometimes need multiple attempts to surmount emotional obstacles. Here's the important thing to remember: The Addict will ALWAYS be looking for a high. Even if he is sober from drugs/alcohol/gambling/food, if he hasn't done "the work," he may get hooked on you. That's why it's bad news if that relationship has gone wrong in some way. Whether he hates her or is obsessed with her, he is blind to the fact that he is replaying his relationship with his mom with every woman he gets involved with.

But some of us are better at dealing with them than others and, we argue, women are often better at working through emotional problems than men. " To which we reply, "Smell ya later." And so should you. The Frisky: 25 signs he is not relationship material The woman he wants: Someone who gets him high. Maybe it's the married woman, his crush from high school he never thought he would get, or the ex he dumped years ago. The Frisky: A dress made for Coco's assets The woman he wants: Someone who is exactly like his mother or exactly the opposite, depending on the nature of the dysfunction.What's in the past should stay there, but sometimes easier said than done and people should accept/respect a person for that & how they deal with it shouldn't they? yep we all have baggage be it physical or emotional...it's whether it's weighing ye down and keeping ye stuck in a rut in the past that is the important issue as far as I am concerned.Going to stop here before I convince myself I'm talking crap and delete my post even tho I don't think I've made sense... loife throws so much at us and we are not bullet proof.it's gonna hurt.some toimes those memories are bittersweet..they should never hold us back.if they are..a sure sign that something still needs working on..has been buried in yer subconscience.The Frisky: 30 things every woman should quit doing by 30 In the last few years of dating, we've come across 10 types of "emotionally stunted" guys -- adult men who may otherwise be awesome but for some reason never matured emotionally. Here is our roundup of the top 10 types of emotionally stunted men (often seen in combination), the kind of women they're after, and what they need more than you coddling them a second longer. If his mom was coddling and overprotective, he may want you to change his diaper and wipe his nose.These dudes are stuck in emotional "playpens" preventing them from forming healthy (and intimate) adult relationships and where the women in their lives are in the position of either pushing them around like toddlers in a baby carriage or screaming "Get up and walk on your own! Usually, emotional immaturity isn't obvious right away. If his mother abandoned him, he may be looking for a clingy lady.This is the most common type of baggage I've seen: a woman just can't get over her ex-boyfriend.

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