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2- are there any rules of thumb concerning what to say/not say to prevent outbursts and hate spells, or a way to approach conflict?

I enjoy this woman very much, but nearly every single person I've asked for advice who's had experience with BPD tells me, with no subtlety, to "run for the hills". hi mate, from a male point of view, I don't think anyone can say what not to say, to stop an outburst, as everyone has different triggers, but saying that, abandonment is a biggie for me!

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When I first met my second wife, D, I thought she was perfect.

She was everything I thought I could want in a woman.

Caring about someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time, and in severe cases, on the border between reality and psychosis.

Your illness distorts your perceptions, causing antagonistic behavior and making the world a perilous place.

There are two areas I wanted to clear up: 1- a BPD trait seems to be a willingness to manipulate.

How serious is this, and is there a way to be cognizant of it?

T calls those “WTF moments.” I thought I was safe, as I had been friends with D for a year previous to us dating.

However, if I knew back then what I know now, I would have run given some of those early warning signs and never looked back.

BPD tends to be a frequent diagnosis for females, primarily those females who have many of the above symptoms including frequent SIB and suicidal thoughts.

Sadly, many males (adolescents and adults) also exhibit symptoms of BPD but are often misdiagnosed as Attention Deficit Disorder or oppositional defiant disorder.

The pain and terror of abandonment and feeling unwanted can be so great that suicide feels like a better choice.

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